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Hello Mr. Mani O’Muney,
I welcome your comments and criticism.
My advice is meant for those who are planning to retire NOT for those who have retired. Through planning and validating their plans, they will lead purposeful lives during their retirement. And I believe that such people die happy. I have not defined what is purposeful for it is a personal thing. I have also not prescribed as to whom one should consult for as you rightly pointed out, it depends on the individual. Hence I will not comment on your 5th pre-condition.
For those who have not planned for their retirement and are happy at work, then working till they are no longer needed seems to me a sensible option. Whether that is done at the expense of their employers, it is not for me to judge. For those who have retired and are lonely, I hope my article helps them to analyse and improve their situations.
I am not qualified to pass judgement on people and the choices they make with their lives and I do not intend to. My purpose was to share what worked for me and I apologise if I come across as prescriptive.
Once again, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your kind wishes. The Top of the World to You too!
Cheng Huang LengReply
Hi, I forwarded your article and I received a comment which you might want to read.
A Fifth Pre-Condition for Retiring Happily
I was seriously intrigued by the article “How to Retire” by Cheng Huang Leng. Since Mr Cheng sees fit to circulate his article, I hope he does not mind some comments and maybe even criticism.
It would seem to me that Mr. Cheng’s advice is meant for a very specific group of people only – the very lonely. I say this because the retiree makes all the decisions himself and does not even consult his loved ones. In the end, he suffers his children to consider him insufferable and a nuisance. This is a great tragedy for a very lonely person.
I suppose this is a natural consequence for a somewhat egoistic and selfish person who makes all his decisions himself without consulting anyone and still expects others to keep him happy.
In the end such people as Mr. Cheng wishes to advise actually use their employers to keep themselves happy since they seem most happy working and not when they retire. They look like followers rather than leaders and cannot even initiate things to keep themselves happy, preferring to surrender this function to their employers. Other than this such persons are also like robots slogging away at a daily routine in trying to keep boredom at bay.
In a sense Mr. Cheng’s article inadvertently reveals that there are 2 types of persons in this world i.e. those who are leaders and those who are followers.
I would therefore recommend a 5th pre-condition for these people to meet before they decide to retire. They should seek and identify a good leader and stick by him or her before they retire. This way, they ensure that their happiness is taken care of by their leader as a good leader would be able to provide meaning to the lives of these people.
Have a Good Day and Top of the World to You!
Thanks for posting that.
I have directed the original writer of the article to this. See what he says.Reply
Thanks for sharing your experience and breaking down the requirements into 4 simple points.Reply
“would therefore recommend a 5th pre-condition for these people to meet before they decide to retire. They should seek and identify a good leader and stick by him or her before they retire. “—-> Doesn’t it mean finding a kaki as well?
Dont understand why is forest attacking someone with a good intention to share.
I am 36 and found Mr CHeng’s sharing is quite useful. I think a lots of us know the 4 conditions but didn’t see them quite clearly.
I think Finding the kaki part is not easy. Either you must have the kaki before you retire or you need to find the kaki actively…
Some says get the spouse. Even it is not so easy. I have seen friend’s retired mother loves dancing but the father is a loner at home . I have found friend’s mother loves gardening but the father just love to sit infront of the tv whole. In fact, my own parent are one of them. If you ask my dad to do exercise, he is worried about his diabetic condition. My mum, her back. so…. health is very important too!!
A healthy body and a healthy mind plus a healthy pocket!!Reply